Accept Rape Victim - Change to see the change

How absurd it is that we find it hard to accept rape victims as a part of so called society but it is quite easy to be sympathetic to the rapists .How ironical is that we want to give rapists a chance to improve themselves and their mentality but what about our mentality? Why is it so hard to give a rape victim a chance to fit in the social norms? If people treat rapists badly they lack “humanity” but what when we pass unbearable comments on the rape victims? Is it not lack of so called “humanity”? This is not something the society has to be blamed for because society thinks after all what you think, what I think, what we think. So ultimately we are the one to be blamed. When it comes to our life we want freedom to take our decisions, we don’t want to follow someone or do something because the other person does that, in short we want to do what we feel like, but why not so in initiating a change? Why do we prefer to wait for someone else to start and then follow when it comes to defying illogical social norms set up? It is not necessary that every other person thinks the way you think, maybe the change you want is never thought up so it is your duty to start up .sometimes we push ourselves away from starting because we feel we may be wrong but this can be thought in the other way too that maybe we are right.

There is nothing in this world that is perfectly right or perfectly wrong; it is the situation that makes something right or wrong so there is no harm in starting up something if you feel like it is correct. Being a girl should not stop you from thinking off the line. Sometimes what we feel is what the world feels but people are hesitant to defy the society especially girls but remember society is created by people like you. Going against the well laid path is not something abnormal or a sign of being insane it is just a way of demanding a change. People will agree or disagree with you only if you raise your voice as silence cannot be quoted. The double standards prevailing at present have made it tough for rape victims to survive in the world. They are thought of something as extreme cases and if they wish to fight against the injustice they are suppressed but when it comes to discussions we will even waste thousands of hours agreeing to the fact that it needs a change. It would be a lot better if we utilize the time wasted in discussions to support them and treat them as normal beings. The nirbhaya case of Delhi is an absolute real example of how hypocritical the society we live in is. The statement of the rapist says it in all. Instead of accepting what he did was wrong he found it quite easy to blame it on the girl. Ok we can say that he was uneducated so maybe he had such mentality but what about the educated individuals that find it the mistake of rape victims than the rapists? It is not all about being educated or having degrees it’s about moral education, the education that is not found in books.

Moreover the way a child is brought up is also of extreme importance. Generally what happens is we teach girls to follow certain norms like “be careful of how you speak in public”, “dress up properly”, “don’t laugh too much” and so on but what about what a guy learns up as he grows up? We are of course least interested in that but unfortunately it is the thing that matters most. If a boy was taught to respect girls, to consider them as counterparts rather than mere things or inferior it would have been no difficult to control up the rate of rapes being committed. As it is said that “no one is born a criminal, it is the situation what makes them” so it is extremely important to pay as much attention to boys as to girls. And the most important thing; remember that it is not the society that makes us rather it’s the other way round. Being a girl does not means that you have to be delicate and soft cornered and full of kindness even for those who don’t deserve that, you have a right to be practical yet emotional, kind yet strong, selfless yet self centered.