It happens in love marriages as well

While the occurrence sounds true for an arranged marriage where one is unaware of the other person’s likes and dislikes, it is equally true in love marriages. Lawyer Mrunalini Deshmukh says, “In the last two months, we’ve seen a sizeable number of love marriages going kaput. Low tolerance and an inability to adjust with each other are the major reasons for most of these divorces.” Change in conduct post marriages, is another major cause. Take for instance Gauri Sehgal* (name changed), who recently filed for divorce. “We were dating for three years before marriage. But I noticed significant changes in him during our honeymoon. He expected me to do all his work and started taking me for granted. This was a far cry from the time when we were dating and this transformation came as a shock. Rather than being unhappy with him, I made up my mind to go for a divorce,” she says. Psychiatrist Harish Shetty, who has dealt with many such cases in the recent past, says, “Staying under the same roof and meeting each other in a restaurant are two different things. You have to live with the person and be a part of his everyday habits. The real essence of a person comes into picture only post marriage. If one is dominating and disrespects their partner, there is a sense of ‘this is not what I knew’. Habits like being abusive in a relationship or discovering that he/ she is a miser tends to put people off.”